We recently changed our cable service provider. Customer service had gone from bad, to awful, and finally to can’t live with this anymore. After a bit of research, I found a new provider offering a better deal with a lower rate. Yeah, I know the price will increase in a year, but for now, it’s a better deal.
Changing cable service is not for the faint of heart, especially at this age. The programming is pretty much the same, but just a little off kilter. One has to relearn a bunch of stuff you already know; learn to operate a new remote, find your favorite shows and figure out how to record them, again.
No manual. No instructions. Well, unless you count the two-minute orientation by the installer.
Tom and I have a totally different learning style which drives both of us a little crazy. I sit and study the remote, looking for similarities to the previous one. My philosophy is the buttons are the same, just located in different places. Tom’s process is to push buttons until he figures everything out. Of course, the TV screen often goes blank and he doesn’t remember which button he pushed.
It’s sort of like the old saying, “everything old is new again.” Living through a little period of adjustment, we familiarized ourselves with new channel numbers, finding the mute button, and so on. However, we sort of ended up back where we started with tons of channels and nothing we wanted to watch.
Tom is happy to have inherited a few more options for watching sports. I was happy to find several channels with old sitcoms (i.e. Donna Reed, Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, My Three Sons). Relaxing shows that make me smile. Sure they’re from a different era, but they feel like easy listening music or what my daughters used to call mom’s elevator music.
Having to give up our 25-year old phone number and our email address was a bummer. But, a positive has been no telemarketing calls for almost two months. As Martha Stewart would say, “That’s a good thing.”
Changing contact information was a bit more difficult. I told myself it was an opportunity to change user name and password information which I understand everyone needs to do occasionally for safety reasons.
Purging one’s computer now and again seems like a good idea. I eliminated tons of useless information. Now if I could only get motivated to clean out the file cabinets.
Changing our email address eliminated junk emails and companies trying to sell us stuff. My inbox has been a breeze to maintain lately. However, I order online (a lot) so I know it is only a matter of time until they find my hiding place.
Checking emails this morning, saw an email I had not requested. I have been found.
The communique was from Tips on Life and Love offering me advice on how to have a successful first date. The article said that first dates can either go really well or horribly wrong. Gee, you think?
The article went on to say the way to successfully navigate a good first date is to ask the following seven questions. Not all at once. Just sprinkle them throughout your conversation.
Maybe too many years have passed since I was on a date, but I found the questions strange. Listed them below so you all can make up your own mind. (Excuse my answers, but it was too big of a temptation.
Tell me what a typical day looks like for you?
Is this a date or a job interview?
Have you ever doubted your career choice, and how did you deal with the doubt?
Considering I am retired, it just seemed the right thing to do.
How did you and your best-friend meet, and how did they become your best friend?
Met him in the 4th grade. I don’t know. It just happened over the next few years. He went away to college, fell in love and married my new best friend. We were like sisters for the next 45 years.
What is the most embarrassing story about you your friends would tell me?
Are you kidding, I grew up in Norwood. Everybody knows my embarrassing moments. Heck, the stories have been repeated so many times, they aren’t even embarrassing anymore.
What do you have to apologize for most often?
I’m too old to remember.
What’s in your fridge at home right now?
Vegetables, fruit, cheese, butter, blackberry jelly, salad fixings/dressing, milk, OJ, fruit juice, water, and strawberry ice cream. Not very exciting, is it? Bet you’re sorry you asked!
Without telling me what it is, why is your favorite movie your favorite?
Love movies and discussing them, but I’m too old to play guessing games. My memory isn’t that great anymore.
After a good laugh, I pointed out there was no mention of grandkids in those questions. Not one single question. Agreeing we couldn’t exist without talking about our grandkids, Tom wondered aloud, “What did we talk about before they came into our lives?”
Nodding my head in agreement, I told him the highlights of my week had been dinner with our youngest granddaughter and a phone call from the oldest one telling us about her first week of college. Important stuff in our world!
Struggling to remember the conversation from our first date, we finally decided it had been too long ago. It didn’t really matter. Obviously, we had liked each other because we kept dating, even got married.
Me: “So, do these people know something I don’t? Are you thinking of flying the coop?”
Tom: “Nope, never really thought about it. Where would I go?
We both laughed. Where would we go, indeed? What would we do? What would we talk about to someone new? Someone who doesn’t know our stories, couldn’t finish our sentences.
We admit it, we’re old. Tend to resist change. We like life just the way it is. Enjoy living in the comfortable stage of love. Understanding when one does something for a long time it becomes a habit, a comfortable habit. At this age, things seem to come easier than when we were younger, maybe because of the habits.
I am grateful we can’t even imagine life without each other in it. We promised each other we would stay together for a lifetime. Keeping our promise and loving each other has been a good thing.
We realize our life is not forever, but don’t think we’re interested in changing providers in this area anytime soon.
Ending on a Positive Note: Relationships matter. I have heard it said that the only things that truly matter in one’s life are the relationships we share with other people. At the heart of one’s life are the relationships we have with family, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances. How we choose to grow those relationships control the happiness and joy in our lives and in the lives of others.
“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to evaporate.”
– Albert Schweitzer –